As you probably know by now, I am all about choosing to have a good attitude. I believe that if I set my mind to it, I can turn my mood around and be positive. However, sometimes life gets in the way of that. For example, I’m trying to do a homework assignment right now, and I have the wrong textbook. I can’t buy the right textbook, because the website is glitching. See? Life is in my way. I’m frustrated, but I’m deciding not to let that bother me at the moment. Now, I can preach about this positive attitude all I want, but not everyone feels the same way. For those people, I am sorry, because living in a permanent state of ‘grumpy’ must be so tiring. Today, I’m going to tell you how to deal with those people while you’re at work.
In a professional environment, there is a lot going on. People are stressed, and I definitely get that. I’m stressed, too, trust me – I work in a large corporate law firm where people are constantly answering to clients, cranking out thousands of documents, keeping up with ever-changing precedents, and trying to close deals as fast as possible. So, while the attorneys and staff are working extremely hard to get these things done, they are obviously not thinking about the feelings of others. Hey, if I had huge clients and millions of dollars on the line, I’m not sure if I would be thinking about the way I’m speaking to secretaries either. Even though I understand the mindset behind the stress of my coworkers, that doesn’t take away from the fact that they should be respectful. Before I move on, though, I do want to take the time to make something clear – I am not badmouthing anyone that I currently work with or for whatsoever, because every single one of them has been nothing but nice to me; the vast majority of them even giving me work specifically for the purpose of me gaining experience before I move on to law school. I’m very thankful to work in the firm that I do, and I’ve never complained about my job once.
That being said, I have not always worked in a positive environment. As I’ve mentioned in previous posts, I’ve worked in some pretty unsavory places: a basement (complete with cockroaches and rats – I wish I was kidding), a credit union (with horribly bitchy coworkers), and Walmart (that one speaks for itself).
When you’re in a situation that you don’t like, especially if that situation is work-related, it is extremely hard to stay respectful. I will be the first one to admit, taking the advice I’m about to share with you is not an easy task. But, if someone is being disrespectful to you, or being negative, or making you angry/stressed, do not retaliate. Don’t become annoyed with them, don’t talk back. Kill them with kindness.
I’m sure you’ve heard this saying before. It’s gold, honestly. I never understood the value of these words until I had to implement them within my own life. The reason I chose to share this phrase with you in relation to a work setting was because I feel that is where it is most relevant. While you’re at work, you are expected to be professional. You can’t lash out at someone simply because they did something you didn’t like. You are required to work with these people for as long as you’d like to keep your job; and I don’t know about you guys, but I need that paycheck every other Thursday.
There have been times where I’ve done something exactly as someone has asked me to do, and they’ve yelled at me because it was wrong. I’ve made mistakes, and have been scolded for them. I’ve asked questions and gotten screamed at for not intrinsically knowing the answer to them. I’ve even been sworn at for a single typo (literally one letter. True story.) And every single time, I wanted to yell back. I wanted to say hey, I’m doing the best I can, so leave me the f%$# alone! But I didn’t. I said, you’re right, sorry about that, and moved on. I’ve said have a great night! when I’ve wanted to say I’m still pissed at you for yelling at me! But, you have to pick and choose your battles. Getting into a fight at work is not worth being unemployed. Maybe they were having a bad day. Maybe they didn’t realize they were speaking to you with such an attitude. Maybe they were distracted because of a family emergency. We don’t know what other people are going through, and when they’re rude to us, that doesn’t mean we should reciprocate their negativity. Don’t you guys remember the Golden Rule? Treat others how you want to be treated. My dad would be so proud of me for writing that.
Because of that, the next time someone is rude to me, I’m not going to yell, or give them an attitude, or think about how they shouldn’t be treating me that way. I’m going to be kind, say thank you, and pray that they stop being negative one day for their sake.
And plus, nothing drives a rude person crazy like a nice person. Am I right?
Thanks for reading! XO